Happy People Choose to be Happy

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Happy people choose to be happy. What? You might be thinking how can I choose happiness when I just lost my job? When my girlfriend just broke up with me? When I have no friends! When I am struggling to make ends meet and live paycheck to paycheck! How can I be happy when everyone looks like they are living their life, and my life sucks!

Yes, it is hard to be happy when nothing seems to go the way we want. It is especially hard when we hear voices in our brains that keep us stuck in a victim or scarcity mindset. For example, have you put happiness on the shelf UNTIL you reach a certain level of achievement? In other words, do you say to yourself, “I can’t be happy until I make 3 figures.”  “I can’t be happy unless I have a girlfriend.”  “I can’t be happy when I just lost my job.” "I can’t be happy being at home on a Friday night - I am a loser."  

When you use the word, “can’t” you are essentially reinforcing yourself that you CAN'T . In other words, you are hardwiring your brain and telling your brain to STOP looking for opportunities.  You are telling your brain you are at a dead end.

Now, I am not saying you should deny what you are feeling.  What I am saying is recognize that you are having a scarcity, victim mindset that is keeping you stuck, and replace it with an abundant, growing mindset. For example, instead of saying “I can’t”, say “I want to be happy - how can I be happy in this situation?”

Better things come to us WHEN we decide to be happy despite our circumstances. Believe it or not, THIS is the secret to people who ARE happy.  People who are happy have chosen to be happy regardless of their circumstances. And as a result, they attract happier people, happier circumstances, and greater opportunities. 

So shift your thinking. What might happen if you decide to be happy today?  Despite the fact you lost your job? Despite the fact your girlfriend left you? Despite the fact you are struggling financially? What would happen if you decide to be happy WHILE you are on the journey to achievement? 

What if you find a better job, find a girlfriend who values you for who you are, not what they want you to be, or what they can get from you? What if you find friends you more enjoy being with? You find more simpler things that give you joy… and what if you attract people who are more aligned with your values? How might that bring you greater joy?

When you decide to be happy despite your circumstances, you will discover your true nature - your authentic self - and not the one other people want you to be.  As a result, you will gain more contentment as you live a more authentic life. 

When you choose to be happy, you will discover things that truly make you happy and you will realize that happiness begets happiness. And when you stop being enslaved by your emotions, and have greater control over them, the more empowered and happier you will feel.  While life may not go exactly the way we want, and unfortunate things happen in our lives, when we choose happiness, we are able to move through life's difficulties with greater ease.